Queen Biyachessa

Every relationship is a continuous work in progress. It takes a lot of effort, adjustment, patience and nurturing for partners to make it work because relationships and commitment is not that easy. The key to keeping a happy relationship is to stay in love but sometimes, love may just not be enough.

Being in a relationship means that both must work hard to keep the love alive. If there’s a way to keep a blooming flower grow in Spring, there’s also a way to keep the love alive.

Communication

One of the most important keys in keeping a relationship is communication. There’s almost nothing you can’t fix in communicating with each other and as long as both partners understand each other, then it’s a relationship that’s about to last a long time. With communication, both partners learn and grow with each other thus leading to a love that always blossoms.

Space

Being in a relationship doesn’t mean your whole self must be attached to your partner. Not all the time anyway. Having enough space between each other to grow and make decisions for themselves is a must to keep a breathing distance within each other. Family time, alone time or time with friends allows both to explore a world outside their own. This allows both parties to accept each other for who they are and to know who they are without their partners.

Quality time

Not all couples can survive without quality time. This is because they lose the intimate feeling between each other that keeps a relationship interesting and sweet. Simple acts like holding hands, a kiss on the cheek or even just holding the door for the other can already spice a relationship. As what they always say, actions always speak louder than words.

Loyalty and Faithfulness

The difference between loyalty and faithfulness is that being faithful means that you don’t look at anyone else aside from your partner while loyal may look somewhere else but at the end of the day, their hearts belong to only one person. Whatever you are, being loyal and faithful to someone means you’re committed.

Sense of humor

Having a special sense of humor between the two of you is nice for any relationship. It’s like you have your own special code or world between the two of you. Be silly together. Be childish and make fun of each other. Keep each other entertained by teasing each other and then end each laugh with a romantic kiss.

While every couple has their own secret ingredient to staying in love, these are the basics and the ones every couple should have to holding a happy and healthy relationship. As long as both parties are determined to stay committed, there is nothing that can hold back a love that’s eternal.

Being a mother is a special job. No other job can top the job of being a mother. Yes. You bear the child for 9 months tops, you suffer through childbirth and the next 5-6 years, waking up in the morning, whenever the child awakes, running to their sides once they come home crying. As a mother, you’re not only a hero, you’re everything to any child, whether they show it or not.

Until, of course, 13 years later and the child enters teen hood and higher education – in teen words: building relationships, following fashion trends, taking interests in different kinds of music, styles and different stuff, socialization and most of all, finding oneself and the meaning of their existence.

When this happens, not all children grow up asking their mothers for help. Some even go as far as rebellion to find their limitations and their place in the world. And when this happens, only 2 things can happen. One, mothers can just let their kids go or two, which is what usually happens most and what probably causes more rebellion as time goes by, mothers become overly protective.

It’s not their fault; after all, no mother would like to see their child coming home with a broken heart – or worse, a baby in the works. But is it possible that being overprotective can actually push children to become even more out of control?

Although, no scientific studies have been made to answer that question, it’s quite a no-brainer for most teenagers who are probably nodding their heads while reading the past paragraph.

Life is one great journey. And everyone has their own journey to take – whether as a teen or not. One day, there will come a time that your children will have to learn for themselves. They’ll have to get heartbroken to stand up and realize true love. They’ll have to fail subjects to learn how to pick themselves up again. They’ll have to be a part of the loser crowd to know what it feels like. If they don’t learn these, they won’t know what it’s like. They’ll have no idea what their lives are heading to, and their definition of right and wrong would only depend on what their mothers say. Sadly, mothers won’t be there forever.

So it’s not really a question of being protective to be a good mother or a cool mother. It’s the question of being the guide you’re supposed to be. How is your child going to survive alone if you won’t let them learn? How will they know how to cross the road themselves if you keep holding their hands?

No one is saying being protective is going to kill. But being too overprotective is going to ruin your child and how they view this world. It’s a dangerous world out there and no one knows that more than a mother. But as a mother, it is also your job to prepare your child for it, and there is no way better to do that then to let your children make their own mistakes and learn from it – of course, with you by their sides.

It’s not wrong to be overprotective. Just don’t keep sniffing around your child’s room or wandering around wherever they hang. Trust them. Because if you do, they’ll also trust you.

In a relationship, one learns a lot of things – and compromising is one of them. You’re not the only one in the relationship and yet it’s natural that each one of you would want to follow your own way. So what is compromising and why should you do it?
To compromise is to find an agreement within two ideas possibly different from each other. In a relationship, this is important because while a man and a woman can have ideas possibly on the opposite poles, communication and love could be sufficient to build a settlement that would satisfy both parts.
Why should one do it? Well, why not? Would you prefer to keep arguing about something so small and then one day realize you’ve both just settled on the talking too long? Would you prefer to argue about something so small – like say, the color of your house – and end up ruining the whole relationship? Or would you prefer to stand up, be mature and communicate in a rational way with your partner?
Compromising doesn’t only give a certain lift to your relationship, but it also opens up your mind to new ideas. Still, it doesn’t mean that the other person should get everything they want; the idea should at least contain some of your own. Remember; to compromise is to settle on an agreement and not just to settle. Abuse of compromise though, can lead to a lot more problems. In this case, one must learn the right way to compromise.
Each couple must listen to each other. Listen to each other’s ideas and feelings and weigh on the importance of the situation. Listen with an open mind and yet, keep an ideal mind on what you know is right. You wouldn’t want to compromise on an idea that could be dangerous or harmful to both of you physically or emotionally, right? Compromise on an agreement that you both can be happy with.
Another benefit compromising can give is that you get to know each other better. You find out what the other wants, their personality, how goal-oriented they are. You find out how willing they are to give you what you want and how much of your relationship is theirs, and how much is comprised of the both of you. Thus, helping you realize how important the relationship is to you.

“Love is never enough.”

- A saying that is cliché and yet is very true.

Sadly, love is never enough for a relationship to last. Both partners must communicate, learn the art of compromise and yet, still keep an individual part of themselves. Aside from that, there’s trust, loyalty, care and many other things that sometimes love just isn’t enough to replace.
Still, it’s never wrong to dream of a happy ending. Relationships teach you a lot and as long as you’re open to learning new things, compromising and communicating, a happy and content ending may just be what you’re headed to.